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This concept has also been around for quite a while, and it identifies a strategy which may ensure success in the future. First of all, one cannot be successful alone. Relationships, friendships and working with other people are all an integral part of success, and very rarely can be omitted. That being said, if you need other people for you to be successful, why not create your own group of trusted individuals?
Call them the Knights of Your Round Table. These are people who are all, in one way or another, smarter than you. They may specialize in their professional fields, but are not limited to the these. They may have more experience than you in a certain hobby; have travelled more, have a better golf swing. This group is essential in forming habits that will help you in the future.
One of the main benefits of talking to and surrounding yourself with smart people is the learning. You can learn how they interact, what they discuss, how they discuss, how they speak, their mannerisms; the list is endless. You can also learn, albeit vicariously, their experiences. Maybe your Wine Knight can teach you the importance of different kinds of wine, or your Pharmacy Knight can teach you about where the industry is going.
Most importantly, by interacting with these Knights, you can also gain confidence in talking to and approaching people you may not know. When you surround yourself with a group of people with different interests, you must have knowledge about these in order to interact with them. It is to your benefit to take the extra effort to learn something about each of these, and by doing so you will maintain a relationship with that person based on what they enjoy discussing.
One of the hardest aspects of starting up a conversation with somebody you don’t know is finding a topic of relevance. When talking in and around successful people, you can notice the diverse range of topics they talk about, and the fact that most people will have an opinion about these topics. And it all stems from one thing, Reading. How easy!
They say that the best managers are those who employ people who are smarter than them.
Who are the knights of your round table?
After a welcome-back discussion with one of my mentors today, we began talking about mindset of the go-getter college student. We came to the conclusion that there are two types of go-getters. The first is the person who tries to meet as many people as possible and becomes thrilled by the idea of networking with many people. The second is the person who develops rich relationships.
Hundreds of books have been written about the importance of relationships, yet there are so many people out there who still don’t understand this idea.
One thing is certain; it’s about who you know, and not how many people you know. I would, without hesitation, take one of my strong relationships up against a person with hundreds of people they “know”. And I can guarantee that help would come quicker from the stronger relationship. The largest network is not always the best. In fact, the larger the network, the more difficult it becomes to maintain strong ties with everybody within the network.
For those who have been in a frenzy to meet as many people as possible, remember this. Slow down a little bit and develop stronger mutual relationships. Take the time to genuinely get to know the other person, and make sure they feel the same thing about you. Not only will you get more respect, but you will develop a stronger relationship that could provide a channel of assistance in the future. Once you focus on strength, you can develop the size. At this point, you will not have to worry about the reliability of the network.
So remember – despite what the cellular phone operators tell you, a stronger network is exponentially more important than a larger network.
Strength = Reliability